Freedom isn’t only about choice. It’s about capacity, the strength to act, to decide, to endure your own life, and that capacity begins in the quiet, often un-glamorous work of tending to yourself. Before I can form any kind of philosophy, comes the simple question: have I eaten, rested, and told the truth to myself today?
Self-care has been merchandised into bath bombs and luxury retreats, but real care is maintenance, not indulgence. It’s the morning you brush your hair even when no one will see you. It’s cleaning your kitchen because your future self deserves a place to make coffee without the annoyance of making the space for it. Maintenance is continuity, the steady rhythm that keeps you sovereign within your own skin. Indulgence is NOW, done and over. Maintenance lasts. Instead of “quick fix” that costs you money, it’s an enduring habit that is free!
Emotional hygiene is part of this work. Boundaries, rest, and repair are not selfish. And idea rarely heard is that a burned-out person is easier to control. A person who cannot say “no” is easier to exploit. Every time you defend your peace or choose recovery over performance, you are practicing self-care that doesn’t need a prop. You are saying: my time is not public property. My attention is not for sale.
Self-respect precedes all other strength. It’s the root system of every future act of courage or compassion. You can’t keep the lights on with a dead battery, but more importantly, You can’t take care of anyone or anything else without caring for the self. It all begins not with magick words or special herbs, but with knowing who you are.
Stay tuned for Saturday! I’ll post a first, small ritual that focuses on strengthening boundaries.
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